Hey Party People,
Daylight savings time is around the corner and it's just about time to fall back. Meaning we dial our clocks back an hour giving us more sunlight in the mornings.
It’s also a time of transition as the seasons start to shift more seriously towards winter. The cold temperatures of winter are inevitable and I find it somewhat comical how upset people get when it arrives. We’re Canadian – winter is a part of life up in hurrrr.
Today I want to talk, not about the seasonal changes, or the referendum on Daylight Savings Time, but instead about healing. Healing Forward.
If you spend any kind of time in the personal development space there is a lot of energy focused on our past. Our past traumas, our inner child, the root cause of this pain or that trigger response. We spend a shit tonne of time digging through our past trying to understand why we are the way we are.
There is absolute value in uncovering where your beliefs and behaviours come from. This can help you understand yourself and your experience on a much deeper level. But what I’ve realized is that we can get stuck always looking behind us. We can become consumed with trying to dig up the WHY.
Why am I feeling this way?
Why did this trigger this emotional response?
Why can’t I just move forward?
What if instead of trying to dissect our feelings we just let them be. We let them play out in our hearts and our mind, and then we released them. (I know easier said than done). When we continuously seek a bigger answer we create a stronger bond to the current feeling we’re in, holding us in that space. We think we need to understand every detail of why this feeling came up instead of just acknowledging that it did.
I suggest turning our heads and hearts around every once in a while to heal forward. Experience your feelings in the present, but look forward to where you want to be and how you want to feel when you get there. Try focusing on what you do want instead of dwelling on trying to understand every damn feeling that bubbles up.
I am the queen of this. I’m an emotional being to the max and I always always want to understand why. I am 100% guilty of trying to heal through dissection, but I get caught up in the inquiry and forget about what I really want. I want to feel better. I want to publish my book. I want to start my business. I want to be independent. I don’t want to get stuck on the emotional carousel going round and round and round.
Try it next time you’re feeling a little stuck or don’t understand why something is the way it is. Let go and trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it should. We don’t always have to know everything right now, some lessons are learned over time. Remember you are exactly where you need to be. It’s time to heal forward and look ahead to where you want to be.
~I believe in you, even if you don’t just yet.~
Here’s your party jam to get you moving this week!
With Gratitude,
-S
P.S. I love writing this blog. If you enjoy reading it half as much as I enjoy writing it I would be amped if you shared it with someone in your circle. Sharing is caring 😉
ICYMI! In my last post I dig into our tendency to escape. When we don’t dissect or let go of our feelings we instead try to push them down – we seek that Temporary Fix. Check it out and let me know what you think!
I really like this perspective on moving forward, as we tend to pay attention to our past. Is it because it’s what we know for sure? There is no doubt when looking back because it is true and we can’t change what was. When we look forward, there is a whole open giant unknowing ahead of us. That can look real scary. So much easier to stay with what we know for sure (PAST CRAP)
I believe at times we write our future according to our past experience. We think we Know how people will respond to our requests, treat us the same as in the past, & then we do exactly what we have done before. We become stuck…